misunderstanding...

At times during work, you will tend to meet people who are immature, childish and narrow minded..

There are many ways to handle people like this, to ignore, to confront, or just simply manage them.

I tried many methods.. You name it, I've done it but how much can you do to make it right..

Being in the work force for so many years, I've met all kinds of people..

Well I've done what I thought is right and that is to ignore... I thought it worked but it backfired somehow. I thought that it might be good to just ignore and do my own work. I just simply refuse to let such people affect me but the thing is that even if you can pretend they do not exist, they may and will affect your reputation.

Having other colleagues come to me to tell me things like XXYY told them things about me when they first joined the firm. This brings the part to having people who access themselves and not based on hearsay to label or people who simply brands you based on what others say. Well I told my colleague that I do not give a shit about what they say cause I know it is not true and if others want to bitch about me, it just shows what kind of person they are.

However, my colleague told me that yes, although my thinking is true, my reputation is already tarnish even before people get to know me.

This is life I guess, sad but true.

If a person is jealous and is out to get you, will you snoop so low to be like them doing the same? I hope not and I hope I never will need to do this.


Being colleagues, there are at times whereby your colleague will ask you for help. There was an incident that was really hurtful. I was asked to help on an issue by colleague (let's name the colleague B) which I did. It so happens that I was working that day. All I was asked is to let the customer sign a set of forms and that's it. I had an appointment at 10am in the morning thus informed that B that it maybe good to ask the customer to come earlier or after 11am. The best is of course before 10am which is a better timing for me.

I met the client at 9.30am and met my client at 10am. B's client then came back again when I was with my client, insisting that we have to process his request immediately.

I was with my client and was unable to serve that client at that moment thus informed my other colleague to contact B to clarify, cause I was only informed to meet the client to sign the forms and that's it. I do not have the necessary documents to proceed with client's request.

So B has no choice but to come back because he may have promised client without knowing or there might be a miscommunication. So B barged back office and barge into my meeting with my client insisting on the form. I told him to give me a moment to excuse myself. 2 minutes later, I went back to my desk wanting to pass the forms to B but to my horror, B ransacked my drawer without my permission for the forms.

I sort of asked him like an hour later, in a mild manner saying why B went through my things without permission, B just keep quiet. I guess B might be pissed that he needed to come back.

I was very confused at that time because, if B had the relevant information to process the request, B could have told me when I called but nothing was communicated. Also, I was with a client and it is very upsetting to know if B thinks that I have to stop what I am doing just cause B did not manage things properly.

2 words, Yuan Wang, which means that I am maligned for something that I have no complete knowledge of what has happened and yet makes me seem like the bitch of the universe.

My team is not big, but I know I have the support from many colleagues in my team. There used to be quite a number of trouble makers - as labeled by the management, in my team but has since left (Thank god!) I love my co-workers! Most of them are supportive and great but I guess in every basket of apples, there is bound to be 1 or 2 rotten ones.

I hope they reflect on themselves, why no one supports them and what can they do to improve.

I am open to criticism, if I did something wrong, I would want to know what it was and how I can improve myself!